So what are God’s thoughts about identity struggles? I am sure we would all agree we don’t know all of God’s thoughts, but we would equally agree that He has laid out most of his thoughts about mankind in His Word. In his Word, identity is a big thing to Him. So much so, that He started out this whole world with making us in His Image!
So what is your identity? Is it where you live, what you wear, where you work, what you look like, who you hang out with, or how well you succeed? If your answer to any of these is yes, then you may have just found the reason why your sense of self value is ever-changing, and you may be trying to be someone you are not. Because each of these potential sources for identity, and your perspective of them, are ever-changing.
How important do you think your identity is, to your life and your sense of fulfillment, happiness, and success? If God started the existence of the human race off with creating us in His Image, making our identity in Him, than that tells us that identity is a powerful force in our lives. The Word of God says, “As a man thinks in his heart, so is he” Proverbs 23:7. Interestingly, neuroscience is discovering more every day about how much our thoughts of ourselves control our life. How you see yourself, will be who you act like in life, how you feel, and where your perspectives come from. The more you follow this truth, in the Word of God, you will find His Word chock full of who He created us to be. You will also find in there who mankind decided to become as we listened to lies and not His truth. But His answer to our slipping way, was to restore our identity, through Christ Jesus. At least 50% of the New Testament is about who we now are in Christ Jesus. He restored us to our original image, through Christ!!!
God created us to live from our identity, and gave us the identity that would make us most fulfilled, happy, and successful. That identity is His image, in us. He knows our happiness can only come when we get back to that core identity, being created in His Image. Then all other parts of our identity will come into balance and peace.
It takes being transformed by the renewing of our mind, to these truths, to begin to walk in the freedom this identity brings us. It never changes, it is always who we are, we are forever valued as God’s chosen race, to be created in His Image. His Image is love, peace, joy, and holiness.
In the press lately we have all seen much about Bruce Jenner and his identity struggles. I would like to say first, that we have all had identity struggles. They may not always be in sexuality, but we all have dealt with or do deal with a lack of value, insecurity, uncertainly of who we are, and many more value issues. Many in this world reject themselves every day, by never being able to say no, or by being prideful, and unwilling to change for their own success, or by not loving on those around them and thus producing an environment where people give them a hard time, or by never forgiving, and by putting themselves down, condemning themselves, people pleasing, being someone for someone else, and many more ways.
Could it be that Bruce Jenner moved into the ultimate self-rejection? That He never accepted himself, his own identity? Therefore, convinced himself he wasn’t supposed to be who he was, and turned away from his masculinity, and male gender? The unfortunate thing is that when any of us turn away from who we really are, we never find peace until we deal with our core identity issues, rather than our sexual identity, or financial identity, or social identity, etc.
I have spent my career helping people find freedom in life, through their true identities in Christ. Which always leads them to loving themselves and building stronger, more loving relationships. It is a glorious transformation!! It is what God intended, for transformation. Our path to being happy with ourselves, is not to reject who God created us to be. But it is to embrace who we are in Him, and be transformed by His love, peace, and joy in every other area of our life and identities!